Friends, Lovers, and the Big Terrible Thing - Matthew Perry

Friends, Lovers, and the Big Terrible Thing

By Matthew Perry

  • Release Date: 2022-11-01
  • Genre: Biographies & Memoirs
4 Score: 4 (From 1,048 Ratings)



The BELOVED STAR OF FRIENDS takes us behind the scenes of the hit sitcom and his struggles with addiction in this “CANDID, DARKLY FUNNY...POIGNANT” memoir (The New York Times)

A MOST ANTICIPATED BOOK by Time, Associated Press, Goodreads, USA Today, and more!

“Hi, my name is Matthew, although you may know me by another name. My friends call me Matty. And I should be dead.”

So begins the riveting story of acclaimed actor Matthew Perry, taking us along on his journey from childhood ambition to fame to addiction and recovery in the aftermath of a life-threatening health scare. Before the frequent hospital visits and stints in rehab, there was five-year-old Matthew, who traveled from Montreal to Los Angeles, shuffling between his separated parents; fourteen-year-old Matthew, who was a nationally ranked tennis star in Canada; twenty-four-year-old Matthew, who nabbed a coveted role as a lead cast member on the talked-about pilot then called Friends Like Us. . . and so much more.

In an extraordinary story that only he could tell—and in the heartfelt, hilarious, and warmly familiar way only he could tell it—Matthew Perry lays bare the fractured family that raised him (and also left him to his own devices), the desire for recognition that drove him to fame, and the void inside him that could not be filled even by his greatest dreams coming true. But he also details the peace he’s found in sobriety and how he feels about the ubiquity of Friends, sharing stories about his castmates and other stars he met along the way. Frank, self-aware, and with his trademark humor, Perry vividly depicts his lifelong battle with addiction and what fueled it despite seemingly having it all.

Friends, Lovers, and the Big Terrible Thing is an unforgettable memoir that is both intimate and eye-opening—as well as a hand extended to anyone struggling with sobriety. Unflinchingly honest, moving, and uproariously funny, this is the book fans have been waiting for.


  • Been there

    By Dsweet1
    From one addict to another, thank you Matty!!! This book is an easy read for addicts & I’m sure could be a hard read for those who are not. The truths he bares are ones that speak for a generation of addicts trying to survive in the age of “honey” in pill form. I am grateful for my angel, aka, my wife, the one who gave me my second chance. Is it ironic that my 15 year old daughter’s favorite show is Friends? One day I’ll explain to her how her dad & Chandler had something in common other than their sense of humor. Great book with a choppy flow that encapsulates an addicts mindset. “Could this book “be” any better??
  • Amazing story, great read

    By krystalshine
    Addiction and it’s personal consequences, amazing actor!!
  • When Addiction is Your Oldest Friend

    By Richard Bakare
    Wow, just wow. From the first line to the last this one, this memoir is explosive. Matthew Perry holds nothing back and spares no one in this very revealing reflection on his life. You can only wonder how many bridges were or will be burned from this tell all. Outside of the scandalous moments, this one is short, candid, and feels like you are on the therapist coach with him. You sit back and watch as Perry searches for some philosophical enlightenment all his own. At other times it is like reading tabloid story while waiting in the supermarket line. There are gems and the most insightful one is when he shares his therapist’s guidance that “reality is an acquired taste.” An observation he returns to and expounds upon throughout the book. That insight seems universal and especially fitting for the times we live in. When we can escape so easily through devices and echo chambers; addictions of a different sort.
  • Amazing book!

    By Deli_m
    I have always loved Matthew Perry, Chandler is my favorite character ever and he has brought so much joy to my life!! I absolutely loved learning about his life and struggles with addiction. He is helping so many people over come their own addiction issues (me included) and that’s so amazing! I hope he knows how much people love and care for him.
  • Matthew Perry

    By danawills
    Great book. Laughed and cried. Highly recommend .
  • Could you BE any more relatable?

    By mandy10233
    I have always loved Mathew perry in everything he was in! In the book, he showed humility, tenderness, and resilience. I am an even bigger fan now. Thank you for such a great read!
  • Incredible story.

    By Sily143
    There was so many moments in this book where I gasped and opened my mouth in shock. The insane amount of opiates Matthew took daily was horrifying to read. It made me so sad for him. I felt happy when he became sober and then sad when he lost the battle everytime. Addiction is a terrible disease. I am so incredibly happy he lives to tell the story. God is amazing is many ways. The end of this book made me sad because I lost my mom to an alcohol addiction. Matthew was able to overcome his addiction with the love and support of his family while me and my family gave up. I feel regretful everyday. I saw someone in the comments mention that this book was disorganized and random with the writing and I’d have to agree with that. However, the book was great anyway! Thank you for sharing your story Matthew Perry! And thank you for giving us the best Chandler Bing we could ask for! Xoxo
  • Excellent read!

    By TA81ny
    The book was great! I was a huge friends and Matthew Perry fan. The book is smart, funny, and honest. I am an even bigger MP fan after reading his book.
  • Rough

    By ZoReads
    Honestly disappointed in this book and Matthew Perry. I’ve always really liked Matthew Perry and was interested in reading his side of his story and addiction. First, I thought it was poorly written and all over the place. Confusing to follow any of the stories he was telling and no straight thought. Matthew Perry also exaggerated stories for dramatics and reactions from the audience, which I suppose as an actor has always been his point, but is annoying as a reader of a memoir. Specifically his medical stories are exaggerated for “wow factor”. Additionally Matthew Perry shows how absurdly self important he finds himself. It was hard to read some of his self important comments and “woe is me” stories.
  • Amazingly Sad

    By Stop the complaints
    A fantastic story we all wished hadn’t happened at all, but it did, over and over and over again. Matthew Perry takes us on a horror ride of his life. While he is a lovable TV and movie star, he has not had it easy to say the least. I found myself praying he would be ok this time, only to learn if his own disappointment and failure. Exceptionally written and worth the read. God bless him for sharing his story with us.