In Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage, marital psychologists John and Julie Gottman provide vital toolsâ€”scientifically based and empirically verifiedâ€”that you can use to regain affection and romance lost through years of ineffective communication.
In 1994, Dr. John Gottman and his colleagues at the University of Washington made a startling announcement: Through scientific observation and mathematical analysis, they could predictâ€”with more than 90 percent accuracyâ€”whether a marriage would succeed or fail. The only thing they did not yet know was how to turn a failing marriage into a successful one, so Gottman teamed up with his clinical psychologist wife, Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman, to develop intervention methods. Now the Gottmans, together with the Love Lab research facility, have put these ideas into practice.
What emerged from the Gottmansâ€™ collaboration and decades of research is a body of advice thatâ€™s based on two surprisingly simple truths: Happily married couples behave like good friends, and they handle their conflicts in gentle, positive ways. The authors offer an intimate look at ten couples who have learned to work through potentially destructive problemsâ€”extramarital affairs, workaholism, parenthood adjustments, serious illnesses, lack of intimacyâ€”and examine what theyâ€™ve done to improve communication and get their marriages back on track.
Hundreds of thousands have seen their relationships improve thanks to the Gottmansâ€™ work. Whether you want to make a strong relationship more fulfilling or rescue one thatâ€™s headed for disaster, Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage is essential reading.